No better jobs than these

No better job than helping people find good jobs to do - however simple.  Nothing need be wasted if you cut precisely. 
Moderns often make the mistake of thinking we must not cut , but cutting is what our Creator calls us to do. It's not easy or costless and can be very painful to do.
Nature is sensitive and delicate so we must understand it well before we cut anything there. By understanding  nature you will develop confidence to cut it because nature is resilient and reproductive as well . 
So learn to do it well . 
Precision in decision is your calling in whatever paddock or workshop you find yourself in  Keep the blades sharp and you won't need to do what the French did in the 1700's 
 



Last week at a concert we sang the great song by the duo Gershwin's "Nice work if you can get it "
 

The song ends with the words "Will YOU show me how ?"
No even though I spent half my life trying to find good work for young people ( Other peoples children ) I know I can't do it
Let me remind you then that you can't help many people and you too need to choose which ones you  should aim to help. 
What I can do is show you how  to run your own household and be a good parent 
To save time let me just tell you a story   ( the very short version as is fit for a poet ) 

Father to Son    Did you hit your brother ? 
Son  No !!  No ! 
Father   Off to your room ( so you can THINK about what you are doing and have done )
Father  Come out when you have something more to say 

OK  what is happening here?  Efficient conversation 
 Later  . None of the following may be necessary -- We don't want only more nagging  but some words can be helpful too
"Before you leave this house, you need to know that lying to yourself and to others is wrong and not good for you . You need to know who your enemy is and how to engage with him  " 



" Look son, I love you but I don't love some of the things you choose to do. If I get angry at you its often because of things you choose to do. You have been given absolute freedom by your Creator ( not me ) to do what ever you like.( Teach them to hate the sin but love the sinner ) 
You do have bad thoughts which you can't do much about except not to act on them .More important than that, you need to admit to yourself ( noone else) that you have them and deal with them as bad ." {Jung rightly describes the only problem remaining is man himself. )

Mums might have the worst jobs in the world (in this case perhaps having the constant bad cop job of telling the child it is wrong to lie) but by the two cops working together, the good cop can take a different tack. It's always better and more effective IF we tell ourselves the truth and however long it takes it's time well spent. God help those who try to tell us these things. 

Don't fail --focus! 
I spent half my life trying to help young people who were not my own, to find good work .  Whatever I said did little to change their attitudes or their pathway. I have watched others too give their time generously too to other's children. Its been hard for them too because they can easily and deeply neglect their own families in the process.

What am I saying ? Choose well who you will help. I am saying don't overestimate what you can do for other peoples children but do a good job on your own (they too won't ever be perfect but focus on what builds resilience in households) 
 And if you haven't got children of your own teach yourself to do even the most basic of jobs well so that you will then learn to do everything well . 


And forget being remembered and appreciated , Doing your job well will lead you to get the best satisfaction you will ever get. 


(If you really want help, don't go straight to a psychologist, try an experienced poets like  Gershwins  .)

We all have good sound reasons to be angry

For a start, we all know, as reasonable people, that even though we know things, we are not listened to.
That fact can make us rightly angry -- angry adrenalin responses can be OK-  it;s what our Creator built into us 

It's how we manage that anger that can make it good.
  Adrenalin is the dangerous and diverse effect gift to you to manage life for GOOD .And yes its also dangerous and easily part of the Bad .
 God wants you to properly author and counsel others with the truth. Its part or your arsenal to live the good life . Its particularly the weapon for good of those who are pushed down ( cf those who rise to the top) 

 I feel for Stan Grant (resigning from ABC) and Noel Pearson (because racism and isolation is on the increase), but they, like our post- modern culture are trapped by their inadequate attitudes to anger hatred repentance and forgiveness. They are overreacting to a real threat, but not really understanding the threat.

Mistargeting and overstating 
The monarchy and Christianity are not inherent threats to honoring diversity, but the very reason we have for centuries honored it.  
 It's how we deal with anger that's changed.
The post modernists have made anger a sin, when it is not. This is, as Os Guiness said, the West going East and losing itself in unproductive shaming, guilt and unforgiveness that perpetuates the pain and the adrenaline suppression (not good) 

Most of us were taught that God gets angry and that we should deal with anger before the sun goes down each day. Believers and their families ( incl children) could get hot under the collar and survive. They lived the wonderful truth that it was ok to be angry every day, but to deal with it in a positive  way .This limits, like nor-adrenaline, the damage that could now kill us.  
By making it a sin, it makes the person who SHOWS anger now feel very bad, ashamed and accused of shaming; the focus of gas lighters.  All the afore is unworkable unnecessary and inappropriate intransigence and pain.  

In rejecting their Christian heritage, the ABC have adopted, from the vacuum in the vault of pure reaction, some other old ideas that do not work.
The only way to make things work. for our children's sake, is to admit we have given into unforgiveness, shaming and not accepting that the many injustices done to us (or done to or by our forebears) are less important  that injustices done to people right now. 

Recognise those suffering from cognitive dissonance

 
IN THIS LOST AGE , EVERYBODY IS ANGRY -- almost all the time 
Life confuses all us at times.   never more than when mum and dad argue.
Never more than when anger and adrenalin doesn't fulfil its purpose or worse - is said to be a sin ( a heresy) 
The mistake some never grown ups make is to think the arguers hate each other.
Best to look deeper
Best to check those that confront others don't just HATE the action  - people who love you will sometimes insist on telling you the truth - even if it hurts
eg the arrogance and the insistence on getting own's own way
EVERYBODY IS ANGRY -- almost all the time because the post Christian world view of the highest morality is that everyone should be free to get what they want , Something we all tried out when we were children but its now the church where most people now worship 

Yes lovers can learn to hate each other but anger , dealt with before the sun goes down can be restorative .   We are living in an age of quick fix , no fix waste and divorce when we all need a way to be reconciled . 

Some children never get enough good shocks and LOVING WORDS to check their rebellion in a good way . Such people think the problem with  people is something wrong with people  other than themselves  ( projection)  .Thats a recipe for hell all around . Do we not have hell all around? 


The inability of a mother to correct her child leads to hate . Unless a miracle of insight love and forgiveness happens, the child can learn only to hate him/herself and others. 
Someone needs to ask some of those boy" Nazi's" trying to silence women in protests last week "what are your  relationships with your mothers?" . Why is it men who are leading in defence of their own position in " nazi " rallies 


SOME PEOPLE LEARN TO USE THEIR ANGER 


MANY MODERNS in cognitive dissonance just FEAR ANGER because they don't understand it 

JB Peterson helps people understand our feelings and mind games . but he is banned from the ABC .